C-theLight: Chemistry, Physical Attraction or None of The Above ?

I was just having a conversation about the need to settle down with a friend of mine a couple of hours back.
Now I found myself behind my notebook accompanying by the rain outside my house, the smell of someone's cooking, and the sound of Vampire Weekend writing a few thoughts for you. And oh a cup of jasmine tea and a slice of chocolate bread.

Too many people start their relationship with a physical connection at the very first stage of their relationship where they suppose to use those first times as an introduction to know each other better.
Don't get me wrong I don't mind with a physical attraction. I had that the first time I met someone I like. And you can't deny that's the first thing you see from the opposite gender (sorry strictly for straight people).

But it would be nice if you can add some personal qualities from that special other into the reason why you chose them.
It creates the sole of a purpose in a relationship.
I bet everyone wants to be seen as they are including the unseen part of them which is character. Later we will discuss about weaknesses and flaws.

Physical attraction alone won't be enough to get a good result from a relationship.
It will only last as a euphoria.

And I personally willing to take risk from going to a typical physical connection first relationship to a more advance level of character first relationship.

Forget the mutualism, drop all the intention to take advantage from others but instead ask yourself what can you give to this significant other, what can you do to improve yourself so this person can get benefit from you and by doing so they will also have some improvement in life.
Cause to me life isn't about take and give but rather give and get.
There's a whole lot different in the two statements above.

Find what are the things you have in common, so you can relate to each other. Activities you can do together, lesson you can learn from them, qualities you admire from them that can motivate you on becoming a better person, an equal partner to them.

Think of how you can grow together for a better future. Stop seeing thing from the fun side only.
The thing is start doing things you've never done before. Things with the same purpose but different approach. Think Thomas Alpha Edison .

I may sounded like a boring old lady but really that what it takes for you to have a better future. Only if you want one cause life is a choice !
Get out from your merry-go-round relationship, unhealthy relationship, a no grow relationship.

Let me help to make this easier for you.
Ask yourself these questions:

1. What do I want from a relationship ?

2. What are my expectation toward my significant other ?

3. Where do I see this going ?

To some it may take a few minutes but to others it maybe some of the toughest questions to answer. Either way you'll find this useful.

Always remember "If you can't question it, you can't own it !,,

Here are some pics from Christmas dinner